At its core, DBT teaches simple, repeatable actions that help you survive high-stress moments and make choices you won’t regret later. It’s not about being perfect or calm all the time; it’s about learning how to notice what’s happening, name it, and take one effective step.
The word dialectical means two things can be true at once:
“I’m doing the best I can — and I can still learn new ways to cope.”
That mix of compassion and growth is what makes DBT so powerful.
DBT stands for Dialectical Behaviour Therapy — but don’t let the clinical name put you off.
The heart of DBT
Why skills matter more than talking
Traditional therapy often focuses on insight. DBT focuses on doing.
Each skill is a micro-tool you can practise outside a session: breathing when you want to yell, pausing before a text you’ll regret, or grounding yourself when your thoughts race.
Research shows DBT skills can reduce self-harm and suicidal urges, improve emotional stability, and strengthen relationships when practised consistently. But more than data, people describe DBT as “a way to stay in my body when my mind wants to run.”
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“The most important thing to understand is that people are doing the best they can and they can do better. Both can be true at the same time.”
Marsha Linehan—Creator of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy
The four core skill sets
Skills and What it builds
Mindfulness
Awareness and presence — learning to stay in the moment without judgment.
Distress Tolerance
Crisis survival — how to ride out painful emotions safely.
Emotion Regulation
Understanding, naming, and influencing feelings so they don’t run the show.
Interpersonal Effectiveness
Communication and boundaries that keep respect on both sides.
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ADHD & impulsivity
Quick resets like TIPP (Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing) and one-sentence scripts keep decisions grounded.
Anxiety & 2 am spirals
Mindfulness and “Check the Facts” quiet the mind’s worst-case stories.
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Depression & burnout
ABC PLEASE routines rebuild structure and energy through small body-based care.
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Trauma & dissociation
Grounding techniques remind the brain it’s safe now, not back then.
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Relationship conflict
DEAR MAN, GIVE and FAST teach clear asks and boundaries without guilt.
Who DBT helps
You don’t need a diagnosis to benefit from DBT. It was designed for intense emotions, but the skills help almost anyone dealing with overwhelm.
If emotions feel “too much,” DBT meets you exactly there — no judgment, just skills.
What DBT looks like in practice
Imagine this:
You’re furious and ready to send a message that’ll blow things up.
DBT walks you through the moment:
1. STOP. Pause. Breathe once.
2. TIPP. Cool your face or step outside for air.
3. Check the Facts. Did they mean what you think?
4. DEAR MAN. Write one clear, kind sentence that says what you need.
5. Wait 15 minutes — then decide if sending it still feels right.
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Common questions
No. It was developed for BPD but helps with ADHD, anxiety, trauma, depression, and emotional sensitivity in general.
Yes. Many people start with self-help and peer-led courses. Structure, community, and safety plans make the difference.
Some relief can happen in days; deeper habits take weeks of practice. Think “skill-building,” not “cure.”
No. Mindfulness can be moving, talking, cooking, or walking — anything that brings you back to the present.
It won’t numb you; it helps you feel without losing yourself.
Its not therpay itself. We offer psychoeducation and peer guidance, not diagnosis or treatment
It’s not a quick fix. Skills are built through repetition, not magic. It’s not about suppressing feelings — it’s about learning to ride them without being dragged under.
Track your progress (this week)
Tiny wins add up. Even practising one skill a day builds momentu
Day 1–2
Mindfulness — two 1-minute grounding practices.
Day 3–4:
Distress Tolerance — learn STOP and TIPP.
Day 5–6:
Emotion Regulation — try ABC PLEASE and Opposite Action.
Day 7
Interpersonal — write a two-line DEAR MAN script.
Safety & Trust
Scope: Psychoeducation and peer support only — not therapy, diagnosis, or a crisis service.
If you’re in crisis (Australia): 000 • Lifeline 13 11 14 • Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467 • Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 • 13YARN 13 92 76 • Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 • 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732
Global: findahelpline.com
Author: Lloyd Taylor | Peer Recovery Worker & Founder, DBT Support Hub
Last updated: October 2025